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An unhappy woman stressing over an unhealthy relationship.

Girls, it’s 2026, just let that loser go already.

Over the course of this past year, I observed a pattern: baddies are breaking up with their loser boyfriends. This trend is occurring at heightened and record-breaking rates and, let me just say, I’m so proud of us women. 

Sometimes, though, it’s hard to tell that you’re dating a loser. In those cases, it’s more difficult to pull away, because it’s genuinely hard to pinpoint whether you’re going crazy or going through it. And that’s completely normal; that’s why I’m here to be a helping hand.

We can NEVER accept men treating us like a second option. If a man goes hours and hours and hours on end not answering you, and he claims to have been “just so busy,” obviously you shouldn’t believe him. People have lives, yes, but it’s evident when men are just being weird and trying to ghost and actually doing productive things with their lives.

First off, just don’t assume a man is actually busy unless he demonstrates that to you. What is he doing? Is he working a 10 hour shift in the ICU? Chances are, maybe not, unless he’s really cool. Other than that, don’t take that disrespect.

If you tell a man over and over where it is that you draw the line, and he still can’t get it, he’s gotta go. I mean, what is he? Deaf? It takes very minimal emotional and social and physical intelligence to understand and respect another person’s boundaries.

It should not be necessary to have to reiterate the limits you have set for your relationship and it’s exhausting. If the person you’re dating isn’t willing to meet you in the middle after repeated pleas on your end, they straight up don’t really respect you.

Communication between partners is very bare-minimum. Women are magical, amazing and beautiful people. With all that being said, though, they cannot read minds. As women, we should not be constantly pulling at a man’s teeth to make them tell us how they feel. If they want to, let them. If not, let him find the comfort to speak elsewhere.

Ladies, why are we ever allowing a man to insult and belittle us? When a man wants to make you change any detail about yourself or your appearance, the only proper response he should be receiving is seeing you walk away from him. A man who hates himself will always push that hate onto someone else, so flee.

Listen, it’s a great thing to find a man who is secure and confident in himself. In fact, I believe that we should not be dating men who completely hate themselves. How would someone who can’t love themselves ever find the room to love another person? For our own safety, though, we also need to stay away from the men who are head over heels for themselves. 

One of my good friends just recently distanced herself from a man exactly like this. In his view, he himself hung the moon and the stars. If you’re this kind of person, okay, good for you, but don’t string someone along just for the fun of it or to further feed your ginormous ego. That’s just not cool.

As a farewell note, we have to stop giving men the benefit of the doubt. For decades and centuries and millennia, men have never given women a break, ever. Every single day, there is a new expectation and standard that is put on by the patriarchy for women to keep up with. It’s time we quit forgiving these mishaps for men and hold them at the same stupid standard.

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